The ego would love for you to think that you alone are responsible for any success that you have achieved in life, but the fact is, we need each other a lot more than we think

We need each other

The poet John Donne once said, “no man is an island”.  In a world that seems to be more and more disconnected, this is such a powerful idea to remember.  Our relationships in many ways define and shape who we are, just as we help define and shape the people we interact with.

Relationships provide us with a lens to view ourselves and our world through.  In many ways, we are who we are in relation to other people.  Positive relationships serve to motivate and inspire us, just as dysfunctional relationships can weigh us down and cause us great emotional pain.  Relationships are both challenging and time consuming, yet vital to our sense of well-being and health.


At different times in my life, I’ve spent a great deal of time in solitude and have grown to cherish it. I’ve spent many nights alone in solitude contemplating my life. My place in the world.  Most times when I’m in the studio,  it’s just me and my music  I’ve grown a lot from these periods of isolation and each time I can definitely feel a greater appreciation for the role friends and loved ones play in my life.

Life is meant to be lived in cooperation and harmony with others. Humans thrive when they are connected to other people, family, and community. There’s a powerful synergy that occurs when the right people come together. I don’t think can ever be replicated in solitude. We need each other.

In the same way that a great band is greater collectively than its individual members. Healthy relationships bring out and enhance parts of ourselves that would otherwise remain dormant or unexpressed.  I’m a better and more alive person in relationships with the right people than I am when I’m tackling life by myself.

Why so Divided?

The way our societies have been structured, there are inherent forces at work, that may be outside our immediate awareness and control that seem to focus on us being divided. There are so many ideas that we are educated to believe in. Ideas that keep wedges between us. Preventing us from truly connecting with one another and recognising how much we need each other.

Whether it ’s your social class, religious differences, philosophical differences and more, all these ideas seem to divide people and push them further apart.  Yet, the one truth that seems to elude us is that the path to greater wealth. Greater health, and increased well-being depends on us working together and getting along. The ‘C’ that governs us should be collaboration, not competition.

As someone who always ends up taking ownership of tasks and going at them alone, I can vouch for the limitations of this approach  There is only so much I can do as one person and only so far that I will be able to go by myself.

That’s why recently it is becoming easier and easier to start reaching out to other people and create mutually beneficial partnerships.  By working with others, ideas evolve and actually start taking shape into something tangible and achievable. You gain perspectives on situations and even of yourself that you probably wouldn’t have been able to on your own.

Let’s face it, for better or worse, we need each other.  I’m a big believer in the theory that in order to truly be happy. You need to be able to sit in solitude with your own thoughts and comfortable in your own skin.

Of course, once you can do this, you should go seek out other like-minded people to share this journey called life with.  Life is a lot more fulfilling and enjoyable with a few companions.